4 Ways we try to snatch energy from each other
Due to a belief in lack, we often attempt to grab energy from each other instead of contributing to and receiving from one another. By the way, we pretty much do this unconsciously, so if you feel this isn’t really about you, keep reading because we all carry this “lack programming” to one degree or another!
When you find yourself in a difficult situation with a co-worker, spouse, friend or stranger in the marketplace, you can change just about any interpersonal dynamic by simply asking the energy to flow. Once you learn about the 4 Energy Types, you can work with these 4 Ways to change a difficult situation quickly.
Remember to always pull the energies through you or them. (not from you or from them)
Quick Overview of the 4 Types
POOR ME
VICTIM
The Victim PULLS energy
Their “gas tank” is always close to, if not, totally empty.
WHAT IS UNDERNEATH IT
Someone who can be an empath and is compassionate.
HOW TO CHANGE IT
Be present and flow energy through you to them.
Acknowledge their hardship. (This must be so difficult for you!)
Do not try to solve their problem.
Shift focus.
WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE A VICTIM
Connect with your sacred space and ask:
- What is this?
- Can this change?
- Do I want to change it?
- If so, how can I change it?
- Is now the time?
WHAT IS UNDERNEATH IT
Someone who could have a lot of passion and caring.
HOW TO CHANGE IT
Get out of the way. Make yourself lots of space and let the energy blow by or through you (make yourself ‘swiss-cheese’)
Acknowledge the strong feelings.
Shift focus.
WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF BULLYING
Connect with your sacred space and let all that energy flow into the earth
Ask yourself:
- What am I aware of?
- Do I need to change something?
- Can I change something?
- What can I change?
- Am I holding onto an old belief?
- Is someone lying to me?
Please be aware that if you feel angry, anger can be an intense emotion, it usually lasts for a short time (watch kids). When you hold onto that energy beyond its expiry date it can turn on you and everyone else around you.
BULLY
OPPRESSOR
The Oppressor PUSHES energy at you.
They use intimidation tactics to gain energy
SPACE CADET
ALOOF
Neither PUSHES or PULLS
Un-present, neutral
WHAT IS UNDERNEATH IT
Someone who can be in total allowance and could be a Peace Maker
HOW TO CHANGE IT
Flow energy through you to them. When the flow starts moving, start pulling energy through them and through you. (kickstarts their energy)
Ask them about something else.
Shift focus.
WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF BEING A SPACE CADET
- Become aware of 3 parts of your body (find 3 points of connection with your body – could be your butt on the chair, your feet on the ground and your elbow on the desk)
- Take a deep breath – become present with yourself
- Allow yourself to perceive all the different possibilities and let go of the pressure to have to do something about it
- Start engaging with the different possibilities
WHAT IS UNDERNEATH IT
Someone who is by nature very curious, the energy of a researcher or scientist
HOW TO CHANGE IT
Pull lots of energy through them.
Acknowledge them for how much they know (without having to agree with them).
Shift focus
WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF INTERROGATING
Ask yourself
- What can I actually contribute here?
- What can the other person actually receive?
- What questions could I ask that would invite the other person into the conversation?
- What would be fun?
INTERROGATOR
KNOW-IT-ALL
Stops/blocks energy flow
Mainly present in their knowledge