Or that if you’re vulnerable you will get hurt? Do you have evidence to “prove it” that when you were once open and vulnerable, someone stabbed you in the back, cheated on you, lied to you, hurt your feelings, or took your money?
That vulnerability is a weakness and if you’re vulnerable, you will get hurt is simply not true and I’d love to clarify so that you can become empowered with the possibility of the STRENGTH that vulnerability actually is.
What IS vulnerability?
And . . . one of the reasons why you have failed to notice the knife flying at you is that you have believed your judgments and decisions about that person to be more true than simply being aware of what that person COULD DO, what they said they WOULD DO, but WILL NEVER DO, and what they MIGHT BE CAPABLE of that you don’t wish to know.
Positive and negative judgments are part of what creates walls of separation
Your POSITIVE JUDGMENTS, “He would never hurt a fly,” OR “She’s so amazing!” are part of what you use to make yourself invulnerable and unaware. Those judgments weave an armoured suit around you that prevents you from actually perceiving what someone will or won’t do, who they are and who they could be, but aren’t being it.
And the same with your NEGATIVE JUDGMENTS. “He’s so stingy.” “She’s so mean.” Because you judge someone to be that way, you will blind yourself to the generosity and kindness they might also be capable of.
Judgments, decisions, conclusions, projections and expectations are the barriers people you put up to cut off your awareness. What if you didn’t have to erect mental/emotional barriers and could simply receive the information and awareness in the moment?
Getting to know how your barriers function, what they feel like when they’re up and when they’re down, starts opening you to your awareness.
When you lower your barriers (your walls of judgements, conclusions, projections and expectations), you might for the first time stand naked in the wind, perceiving everything simply as information and awareness.
When your barriers are down, you will know when to dodge to the side and miss the arrow that aims toward you. You will know if your partner is cheating on you or not. You will know if a stranger who approaches you on the street is kind and caring or if they will hurt you.